7 THINGS THAT REALLY IMPRESS WEDDING GUESTS
Yes, your wedding may be all about you, but as any good host or hostess knows, if your guests aren’t having fun, well, neither are you. To create an event that has everyone up on their feet, moving, grooving and having the time of their lives, try incorporating a few of these crowd-pleasing elements and wedding planning ideas into your big day. Trust us; they’re guaranteed to not disappoint!
- THE ANNIVERSARY DANCE
Because who doesn’t love their shining moment in the spotlight? In case you weren’t aware, the anniversary dance is when the DJ invites all married couples out onto the dance floor, and as the song goes on, gradually dismisses people according to how many years they’ve been hitched until the longest married couple is left dancing, explains Florida Keys wedding planner Lynn D’Ascanio of D’Asigner Events. “Everyone sways like proud peacocks as the crowd looks on and the winners are congratulated with a big round of applause.” For brides who opt not to throw their bouquet, D’Ascanio says this is a fantastic opportunity to award it to the winning couple. Read the rest of this entry »
A wedding party implies it’s a happy group, and that’s certainly your goal on your wedding day. But just because you and your fiancé love all of the people who will be standing up for you doesn’t mean that all of your bridesmaids and groomsmen are as equally enamored of each other.
Whether they’re your siblings or best friends, chances are most of your wedding party will have met each other in the past. If you’re marrying your childhood sweetheart or high school crush, it’s likely that your social circles have mixed, mingled and possibly even hooked up with one another through the history of your relationship.
Before you start asking people to stand by your side on your big day, I recommend brides and grooms consider the makeup of the group. If you MUST include people who have had previous romantic entanglements, or who openly dislike each other for any other reason, be prepared for some drama during your wedding planning and on the big day. But whatever the specific issues may be, try my five expert tips for helping your wedding party get Read the rest of this entry »
EIGHT HABITS COUPLES THERAPISTS SAY ALWAYS END A MARRIAGE
And no, having an affair isn’t on this list.
TALKING TRASH BEHIND EACH OTHER’S BACKS.
It might sound like advice on avoiding high school drama, but speaking in a mean-spirited way about your partner when he’s not around—not just poking innocent fun at his Star Wars obsession—is a red flag that, surprisingly, is pretty common, says Cole. And it could have a lot to do with your friends. “Women may fall into this habit if they’re surrounded by people doing the same thing,” she says. “If your close group of girl friends are constantly talking poorly about their own husbands, it may feel more normal for you to chime in and say, ‘You think yours is bad? Listen to mine.'”
But in reality, it shines a light on a deeper issue, says Cole. “It shows a lack of respect for him and your connection, even if he never finds out,” she says, and starts a pattern of negative comparisons that can lead to even more criticism and contempt. Before you know it, your relationship is in a fast, downward spiral. Read the rest of this entry »
6 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES ALWAYS LET GO OF
While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly and tense times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
Here, six relationship experts share the things happy couples are able to put behind them, pronto.
- WHO’S DOING MORE
“Happy couples work as a team. They don’t sweat the small stuff, like who loaded the dishwasher yesterday and who made more money this month. They have a common goal and understanding of working together to live their best lives possible.” —Kelley Kitley, L.C.S.W and founder of Serendipitous Psychotherapy. Read the rest of this entry »
THESE 5 HOBBIES WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
In any relationship, it’s important to enjoy time apart to pursue the things you individually love. But our experts say that creating shared experiences, via hobbies, can bond a couple together in incredible ways.
“Having shared interests and hobbies means that you will be spending intentional time together doing things you both enjoy,” explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It isn’t about running the house or dealing with the dog. It’s about having fun together on a regular basis.”
Sharing experiences that have nothing to do with chores or mundane everyday life build a deep connection between a couple. “When you’re doing enjoyable things together, it creates positive interactions and happy memories that protect your relationship from the boring and the difficult,” Doares explains. “And the more positive experiences you have together, the stronger the relationship foundation becomes.” Read the rest of this entry »
Most couples fight are over little things, but these kinds of squabbles often mask bigger problems.
By Kate Storey
FEB 2, 2016
You know that feeling when you can sense a fight coming on with your partner? You get that knot in your stomach, your blood starts to boil, and your mind races. It’s okay to embrace the battle, according to relationship experts Dr. Judith Wright and Dr. Bob Wright — as long as you know what you’re really fighting about.
“Fighting is so good because your relationship is about growing and becoming the very best person you can become. Fights are one of your best tools for learning,” Judith tells GoodHousekeeping.com. “They’re servicing a lot of your unconscious gunk. They’re bringing problems up to the service. They’re letting you know what you care about, what you really desire, what you really yearn for deep inside. They’re teaching you so much.”
The married Chicago-based team wrote a book on the topic, Heart of the Fight, out February 2. They break down the 15 most common fights — and what they really say about your relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
Sometimes your squad (or your shrink) doesn’t have the answers. But your hairstylist might. Or your accountant. These professionals get a unique look inside relationships and what keeps ’em rock solid. That’s why we asked a few unexpected experts to give us their best advice. Listen up, folks—this could be game-changing!
- A FINANCIAL PLANNER ON…TRUST
“Get comfortable with disclosure. Lay your cards out on the table and be transparent about short- and long-term goals and anything else that could impact your partner. When there’s nothing to hide, you can get to trust so much quicker.” —Shannah Compton Game, certified financial planner, yourmillennialmoney.com. Read the rest of this entry »
Whether it’s hanging in front of a window or from a bedpost, the dress deserves to be captured in its full glory.
BRIDESMAIDS GETTING READY
A good photographer knows that plenty of special moments arise when bridesmaids get ready together.
MAID OF HONOR ZIPPING UP THE BRIDE
It’s one of the last finishing touches before the bride says “I do” and an important duty of being her right-hand gal. Read the rest of this entry »